Leaders must be able to cultivate relationships to increase their influence. Many put more emphasis on the education and experience of the leader. Certifications and credentials are essential as they provide evidence of a leader’s domain over a specific body of knowledge required to perform well in the field. Their competence helps them earn the respect of peers and their team.
“If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more, and become more, you are a leader.” -John Quincy Adams
There are certain skills that many consider “soft skills” that are necessary for the leader to be successful. The ability to communicate, connect, and relate to others requires a certain level of emotional intelligence.
Having a high degree of emotional intelligence (E.Q.) allows you to be a more effective leader. Leaders should be able to inspire and motivate others. They should influence others to support and accomplish a shared goal and vision.
“Leadership is Influence nothing more, nothing less.” – Dr. John C. Maxwell
There are several ways a leader can strengthen their interpersonal skills to increase their effectiveness. Leaders that have taken the EQi 2.0 Assessment may be more familiar with these areas.
The three steps listed below can dramatically raise the leader’s E.Q., improve relationships, and accomplish more with their team.
“Leadership and learning are indispensable to each other.”
-John F. Kennedy
- Increase self-awareness. Self-development is essential to achieving excellence. A leader must walk the talk. Leaders must first understand their behaviors, motivations, and abilities before they can lead and inspire others.
- A leader must model integrity. They must not compromise your values to achieve a goal or other temporary gains. They should have clarity of vision and learn to listen to the inner values that drive their dreams. They must trust themselves.
- Their internal compass motivates them to embrace their passion. The shiny object syndrome does not guide the leader’s passion.
- They exercise self-care to keep their energy level fully charged.
- They acknowledge their limitations yet respect and appreciate themselves while seeking to improve.
2. Practice discipline and self-management. Influential leaders take responsibility for their behavior, attitudes, and actions. These can raise their performance level and help build trust and authority with others.
- They seek the input of others. They are not afraid to ask for help or seek information on what they need to do differently to communicate more effectively or be a better leader.
- They hold themselves accountable for their actions and performance.
- They are not afraid to delegate responsibilities and tasks. They are confident enough to surround themselves with talented people
3. Practice social awareness. Good leaders are self-aware of their attitudes and the power they must motivate others.
- They show genuine concern for others and learn how to listen actively. This listening skill helps them connect with the team and develop lasting bonds.
- They acknowledge others and find ways to reward excellence.
- The socially aware leader helps others buy into your vision by making them stakeholders in achieving goals.
- They care about developing those around them by providing opportunities for training and self-development.
“A good objective of leadership is to help those who are doing poorly to do well and help those who are doing well to do even better.”
-Jim Rohn
When leader learns how to bring out the best in themselves and others, they increase their E.Q. in interpersonal relationships. They utilize everyone’s best qualities and minimize their limitations with strategic task assignments and delegation of responsibilities.
When leader learns how to bring out the best in themselves and others, they increase their E.Q. in interpersonal relationships. They utilize everyone’s best qualities and minimize their limitations with strategic task assignments and delegation of responsibilities.
By Lourdes Coss, MPA, NIGP-CPP, CPPO – May 2022
About the Author: Lourdes Coss is a former Chief Procurement Officer living her purpose of adding value. She’s the author of “Procurement Methods: Effective Techniques” and uses the lessons of her 27-year career in government procurement and transformation to coach, train, and provide consulting to leaders and aspiring leaders in the profession. Lourdes is an Emotional Intelligence and DISC Personality Consultant; and a Licensed Brain Trainer and Neuro-Encoding Specialist. She enjoys traveling, dancing, reading, and writing. You may find her in a local café writing her next book.